tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post3900155267399827619..comments2024-03-28T15:43:48.431+01:00Comments on Kanelstrand: Step 1: Embrace Your ImperfectionsKanelstrandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-44959293017609001612012-03-20T10:18:40.543+01:002012-03-20T10:18:40.543+01:00Thank you for keeping me informed, Lyndsey. I am o...Thank you for keeping me informed, Lyndsey. I am off to check your blog post, I am sure there is something new I could learn from you. Looking froward to more insights along the way!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-68958005316150154302012-03-20T02:43:44.777+01:002012-03-20T02:43:44.777+01:00Hi Sonya. I finally am managing to do this challen...Hi Sonya. I finally am managing to do this challenge, which is seeming more and more important to me now. I blogged about this challenge <a href="http://lyndseylikes.blogspot.ca/2012/03/simple-living-pledge.html" rel="nofollow">on my blog</a>. I talked about my inability to say 'no', how it affects my life, some changes that I have made and some recent successes.<br /><br />Thanks for the structure and ideas for this challenge. It really is very timely!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14734335012779300320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-14820177050473867202012-02-05T02:19:51.605+01:002012-02-05T02:19:51.605+01:00I love your suggestions to switch gears from being...I love your suggestions to switch gears from being a perfectionist to looking at situations differently. The points that hit me the most:<br />*Enjoy success without second guessing your ability to sustain the achievement.<br />&<br />*Let go of rigid, moralistic judgments of your performance and develop compassion for yourself. <br />These are two things I really would like to work on. Hopefully over the next few weeks, I will be more comfortable with these.<br />Thanks for the great post!elisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09003122454506399509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-7031656789980547582012-02-03T15:13:22.345+01:002012-02-03T15:13:22.345+01:00I'm a couple of days behind in starting, so to...I'm a couple of days behind in starting, so today I'm catching up!<br /><br />I definitely have some perfectionist traits, especially when it comes to how things reflect on me as a "modern woman." The idea that we have to be able to do it all really wears me down sometimes, but I also have this bizarre need to get everything done and have it be perfect. Or people will judge me.<br /><br />My business continues to grow, and for the time being, I don't have any employees. It's been a busy month and we have family coming to town this weekend. They all know how swamped I've been with my jewelry, but I still have this feeling that I need to have the house spotless for them. They won't care if it's messy, but I feel like it has to be perfect anyway.Paige @ Little Nostalgiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11978050087934003216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-46549082040107637762012-02-03T12:53:43.040+01:002012-02-03T12:53:43.040+01:00very good post.
Thank-you very much for posting.very good post.<br />Thank-you very much for posting.selfsufficient11https://www.blogger.com/profile/03398777696225024793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-10979126061250847062012-02-02T21:37:01.169+01:002012-02-02T21:37:01.169+01:00Oh Taylor, you've got a point. In fact.. I'...Oh Taylor, you've got a point. In fact.. I've been there and that is why I think that sometimes you just need experience and deep analytical qualities :) after a while things start sliding in their right places, I think. It takes some time to realize that perfection is impossible but you, smart young lady, seem to know that already!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-81444982544823986292012-02-02T21:34:02.511+01:002012-02-02T21:34:02.511+01:00It takes a lot of courage to show that it is ok no...It takes a lot of courage to show that it is ok not to be perfect, especially to your children!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-51028921103929554842012-02-02T19:12:46.674+01:002012-02-02T19:12:46.674+01:00What a great start to the Simple Living Challenge!...What a great start to the Simple Living Challenge!! Your story actually makes me think of a friend I had a few years ago...once, she and her brother were having a birthday party, and the whole time I was there she was so busy rushing around and trying to make everything perfect that she didn't even get to enjoy her own birthday party. It's the kind of thing you can learn a life lesson from - if you're too busy trying to make everything absolutely perfect, you won't have the time to enjoy life! It's one thing to want to improve your life, but totally different when you spend all your time stressing about perfection.<br /><br />Although, hm...as I was reading the signs of perfectionism, I was thinking, <i>uh oh...</i><br /><br />I can relate to, "You can't stop thinking of a mistake you made" and "You are extremely self-conscious about making mistakes in front of other people." Sometimes even "You either do things 'just right' or not at all", but especially the first two I listed! :)<br /><br />Usually what helps me stop obsessing over my mistakes is reminding myself that what's done is done. I've already made the mistake, whatever it was, and I can't go back in time to relive the moment. So I just have to accept that I'm not perfect, resolve not to do it again, and move on. It works, thankfully!! :)<br /><br />Once again, great start, Sonya!! :D Hugs!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-2306979587708684652012-02-02T14:09:34.427+01:002012-02-02T14:09:34.427+01:00its nice to remember I am not the only one .. and ...its nice to remember I am not the only one .. and as a mother I have tried to show my own daughters by being authentic with them in the way I act , that it is OK NOT to be perfect ..sort of trying to "stop the cycle" if you will... <br /><br />great post!!ELKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10935251214683485912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-31069252906956811022012-02-02T10:46:42.461+01:002012-02-02T10:46:42.461+01:00I can see what you mean, Rachel! Though artists ma...I can see what you mean, Rachel! Though artists may look casual and relaxed on the inside, the pressure they have grown used to takes its tall. But I think that being able to show an unfinished and imperfect piece of art has a very strong connection of accepting yourself too. I think that it's harder to do if you have insecurities about yourself - yet another proof that perfectionism only stops us from growing, don't you think?Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-5802667129267260522012-02-02T10:43:03.447+01:002012-02-02T10:43:03.447+01:00You are right, overtaking responsibilities and tak...You are right, overtaking responsibilities and taking on a larger workload is a sign of perfectionism. This lack of trust though, is the stronger point in your comment. It screams perfectionism. <br /><br />I lived with a perfectionist until I was 27. I even worked with her. So, I can tell you - you don't want to live with the consequences of said lack of trust. With time people learn that you know best, and you can do it in a perfect way, so eventually they just give up trying. <br /><br />But think about raising a child. Would you take over walking, just because you can do it better?<br /><br />We need to learn how to teach people cope by themselves, doing things for them could be faster and better on the outside but they will never get to learn. If you try to let go of that pressure and allow your colleagues some mistakes in the short run, things will turn so right later on. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your insight!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-28065381522770747562012-02-02T02:12:02.076+01:002012-02-02T02:12:02.076+01:00What came back at me today was your phrase "I...What came back at me today was your phrase "If you want something well done, do it yourself". There are certain aspects of my job that I trust to no one. Well, maybe it's time to rethink that. The key to having it well done is to make sure other workers understand how to do it.<br />Maybe taking on a larger workload is an attempt at "perfection", too.The 4 Bushel Farmgalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377555500812602424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-84848528064292603162012-02-02T01:37:56.266+01:002012-02-02T01:37:56.266+01:00Totally agree! Can't wait to get started!Totally agree! Can't wait to get started!Melissa at bubbyandbean.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13529482206467186418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-61073620043885962532012-02-02T00:26:14.257+01:002012-02-02T00:26:14.257+01:00Good points, and very true!Good points, and very true!ElfReneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16022545534090853381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-39629673117043999352012-02-01T23:59:08.758+01:002012-02-01T23:59:08.758+01:00Very good post! I can definitely own to having thi...Very good post! I can definitely own to having this problem, I think it's hard for artists especially to let go of perfectionism because that's part of an artists training--to learn to critique yourself and other artists very harshly in order to learn and become better. It took a while for me to see the difference between what I do and who I am, but understanding that helps me balance what needs to be perfect (like a big job for a client) and what never needs to be perfect (like my haircut) . <br /><br />It's such a burden off the shoulders to be able to leave something unfinished and still be proud to show it to others when you know it isn't perfect. But it's taken a while -- the ability to accept being imperfect is as much as a learned talent as being "perfect".Rachel Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03106177179797716490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-78357387927567781012012-02-01T22:50:53.499+01:002012-02-01T22:50:53.499+01:00Yes, lists always help us to see things in perspec...Yes, lists always help us to see things in perspective. Mostly because seeing your thoughts on paper makes them more real than just letting them hang around in your head. I've noticed that once the list is compiled, things start untangling by themselves!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-29165766571287378182012-02-01T22:49:10.534+01:002012-02-01T22:49:10.534+01:00I am trying to keep my perfectionism for more harm...I am trying to keep my perfectionism for more harmless stuff tough I must admit I am not successful all the time. Hanging on to mistakes? Oh, how well I know that!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-14207777868926900152012-02-01T22:46:50.041+01:002012-02-01T22:46:50.041+01:00Yes, Valerie, it's hard to let go of perfectio...Yes, Valerie, it's hard to let go of perfectionism. But what I found even harder was admitting I had the bug :) I just never thought I was doing well enough. I think it has to do with upbringing and expectations but growing older is great and thankfully helpful for taking things easier and finding ways to remodel your attitude to life.Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-84270883092783223342012-02-01T21:31:59.255+01:002012-02-01T21:31:59.255+01:00I definitely have some perfectionist tendencies, e...I definitely have some perfectionist tendencies, especially obsessing over mistakes I've made and feeling a pressure within myself to do everything perfectly. It is absolutely a cause of unnecessary stress! I love the idea of listing the signs of perfectionism that I have and how they negatively affect my life - I think that's a really great way to see more clearly how to overcome them and change them into something more positive. I'm going to do that later today. Thanks Sonya!Melissa at bubbyandbean.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13529482206467186418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-89487041699110611622012-02-01T21:00:09.762+01:002012-02-01T21:00:09.762+01:00Okay, I'm back... I just finished my post whic...Okay, I'm back... I just finished my post which spoke mostly of organizing and at first glance I didn't think I was a perfectionist, but I think I could become one on the topic of organization! Great start to what I know will be an enlightening few weeks for all of us! <br />Deb ( from across the ocean blue )Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12431126111383952372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-45365696612849842322012-02-01T19:21:50.420+01:002012-02-01T19:21:50.420+01:00Great way to jump in Sonya! I do tend to have some...Great way to jump in Sonya! I do tend to have some of a perfectionist in me, and along the way have had to decide in what areas I can let it go, and which ones I can't or am unwilling. (Ironically, baking has always been a big one for me too!) And yes, I agree with you on the 'mistakes' part of your post. I look at them all as guides now, pointing things out, or more often telling me which direction not to head in. I used to hang on to my 'mistakes' even as much as I wanted to let them go, and they made me miserable, over and over again. I'm able to laugh at myself now, often out loud, and walk away from them. It took a lot of practice but has made my life much more peaceful. :)Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07287542957454202351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-61542163598016276512012-02-01T18:27:20.434+01:002012-02-01T18:27:20.434+01:00You're right. Perfectionism is a condition. It...You're right. Perfectionism is a condition. It's nurtured. Not nature. It took me a while to accept that too.<br />Most of perfectionism is perception. Our own perception. It's subjective. So basically you can state that something perfect really doesn't exist. <br />So why bother to try and achieve it?<br />Letting go (or working on letting go or trying to let go) is really liberating!Orge Orphelinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16674692622463729819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-41293503318182339382012-02-01T18:14:58.455+01:002012-02-01T18:14:58.455+01:00Perfectionism is my Achilles' heel too, and th...Perfectionism is my Achilles' heel too, and that is why I though I would just cut to the chase. I was taken aback when I learned that perfectionism is a condition... but that might mean that we could cure it, I thought. It was best to hit the problem in the face right at the very beginning!<br /><br />I would say that you really have a success with your sourdough. I can imagine how I would have felt in your place and I realize what a big step forward this is!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-90386919076795987232012-02-01T18:08:52.692+01:002012-02-01T18:08:52.692+01:00Perfectionism is a hard thing to let go of. To bre...Perfectionism is a hard thing to let go of. To break the habit of striving for everything to be perfect is one of those thing you have to work at, and make part of your daily life. As I have gotten older I have learned to let go of things I cannot change, and if it does not work out you can always start over. Thank you for your great tips for letting go of the need for everything to be perfect. <br />Valerie<br />Everyday InspiredAdditionsstylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11527179044598322609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5318789008187152060.post-65574021076650933212012-02-01T18:04:18.763+01:002012-02-01T18:04:18.763+01:00Deb, thank you for being here, I really appreciate...Deb, thank you for being here, I really appreciate your presence and support!Kanelstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656658673748250383noreply@blogger.com